HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION

HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION

Rejection is something every person deals with at some point in his or her life. It can be painful and harsh, and it can stay with us for a long time.

However, it’s a part of life we just need to work through. Sometimes we come out better on the other side of rejection than we would have been if we had gotten it. As scripture reminds us, God will be there for us to ease the sting of rejection. Says Kelli Mahoney

Rejection is Part of Life

Unfortunately, rejection is something none of us can really avoid; it’s probably going to happen to us at some point. The Bible reminds us that it happens to everyone, including Jesus.

Psalm 118:22

The stone that the builders rejected has now become the cornerstone. Psalm 118:2

 DEALING  WITH REJECTION

Getting rejected can be hard. It can make you sad, hurt, surprised, or angry. In general, getting rejected rarely feels good. So how do people deal with it? This factsheet is to share some tools and strategies to help you prepare for, cope with, and recover from rejection.

Why does rejection hurt sometimes?

Rejection hurts. It often feels personal, like we weren’t good enough for someone or something, and that can lead us to lots of other negative thoughts or feelings about ourselves. And sometimes that emotional pain can feel similar in our bodies to physical pain (e.g., feeling your heart drop, getting a headache or feeling woozy, noticing a rising “fight or flight” sensation, etc.).

Before Rejection

One way to take the sting out of rejection is to be ready for it. This doesn’t mean that you should stop caring about things or stop taking risks. Instead, it means thinking about why you want things and experiences, what it means when you can’t have them, and recognizing where you may need supports to help you feel less alone if and when rejection happens. Here are some things to consider. 

May I say this to you: it takes a lifetime to learn the government of God.

May I say this to you: it takes a lifetime to learn the government 

of God.

 All our years on earth as Christians are spent learning to 

know how God rules over us. Remember, in nothing can we freely 

judge or criticize. 

Let us develop the habit of not being busybodies or 

babblers. Learn to be God-fearing. It is not only unprofitable, but 

also most serious to provoke the governmental hand of God. Be very 

careful not to let the predicament of others fall upon you; do not 

draw it down upon yourself by freely condemning others. 

Whatever 

we sow, that we shall also reap. This maxim is very true for God’s 

children. Let us learn to be charitable. The more charitable we are the 

better, for by being charitable toward other people, we will receive 

charity from God. If we are mean and severe with our brothers, God 

will be strict and exacting with us. Learn to be gentle, merciful, and 

kind toward the brethren.

 Try to overlook the faults of your brethren; 

speak fewer idle words, be restrained in judgment. When people are 

in trouble, help them but do not judge them. 

In the last days the Jews are going to suffer much. They will be 

imprisoned, stripped naked, and left hungry. Those who are sheep 

(see Matt. 25:31-46) will visit them in prison, clothe them in their 

nakedness, and feed them in their hunger. We cannot say that 

because God has decided to let the Jews pass through persecution 

and distress, we then will add to their sufferings. Yes, God does 

allow them to pass through deep waters, but we must learn to be 

charitable. 

Governmental discipline is God’s province; the concern 

of the children of God in this age is to learn to be charitable and 

merciful to others no matter what the circumstances. Thus shall God 

spare us many distresses. 

There are many Christians who have fallen terribly because of 

judging people too severely in the past. Their difficulty issues out of 

their past criticism. God has not lessened His rein. Extracted from watchman nee.

Start Each Day with a Positive Thought and a Grateful Heart

Start Each Day with a Positive Thought and a Grateful Heart

In a world that can often feel overwhelming and chaotic, finding moments of peace and positivity is crucial for our well-being. It's easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of daily life, but there's a simple yet powerful practice that can make a world of difference: starting each day with a positive thought and a grateful heart.

The Power of Gratitude

Gratitude is a transformative force. It shifts our focus from what we lack to what we have. It reminds us of the beauty and abundance that already exist in our lives, even in the midst of challenges. When we approach each day with a grateful heart, we set the tone for a more positive and fulfilling day ahead.

Life is full of ups and downs, and we can't always control the circumstances we find ourselves in. However, we have the power to control our perspective and attitude. Cultivating gratitude allows us to see the silver linings in any situation. It helps us appreciate the small joys, the people who support us, and the opportunities that come our way.

Starting with Positive Thoughts

Positive thoughts are like seeds that, when planted in the fertile soil of our minds, can grow into beautiful experiences. When we wake up and consciously choose to think positively, we create a mental environment that nurtures optimism and resilience.

Instead of dreading the day ahead or dwelling on past mistakes, we can start by affirming our potential and setting positive intentions. Whether it's repeating affirmations, visualizing success, or simply acknowledging the potential for good things to happen, these positive thoughts can shape our reality.

How to Incorporate This Practice

1.Morning Routine: Begin your day with a few moments of stillness. Take a deep breath and focus on what you're grateful for. It could be as simple as the warmth of the sun on your skin or the love of your family. Then, set a positive intention for the day.

2.Gratitude Journal: Consider keeping a gratitude journal where you write down things you're grateful for each day. This practice reinforces positive thinking and allows you to revisit moments of gratitude when you need a boost.

3.Surround Yourself with Positivity: Connect with like-minded individuals who share your enthusiasm for positivity. Engage with inspirational content, books, or podcasts that uplift your spirit.

4.Mindfulness Meditation: Incorporate mindfulness meditation into your daily routine. This practice can help you stay present, reduce stress, and foster gratitude.

Meet Masonwabe Nyanga

Masonwabe Nyanga is a beacon of positivity, a life coach, motivator, and a seasoned public speaker. His inspirational talks and writings have touched countless lives, helping people tap into their inner strength and transform their attitudes towards life's challenges.

You can connect with Masonwabe Nyanga and explore more of his inspirational content on his Facebook page

Masonwabe's Facebook Page

In a world that sometimes feels tumultuous, remember that you have the power to shape your reality. By starting each day with a positive thought and a grateful heart, you invite a wave of optimism and resilience into your life. Embrace this practice, and watch how it transforms your days, your attitude, and ultimately, your life.

Don't be Pushed Around by the Fears in Your Mind

Don't be Pushed Around by the Fears in Your Mind

In the grand theater of life, each of us plays the leading role in our own story. Yet, often, the fears that reside in the corners of our minds can become the director, 

dictating the script of our lives. It's time to rewrite that script and let the dreams in our hearts take center stage.

The Battle Within

Fear is a powerful adversary. It lurks in the shadows, whispering doubt and insecurity into our thoughts. It can paralyze us, preventing us from pursuing our dreams and goals. But why do we allow fear to wield such influence over our lives?

The answer lies in the complexity of the human mind. Our brains are wired to prioritize safety and survival. In ancient times, fear served as a crucial instinct that protected our ancestors from physical threats. While our modern world has evolved, our brains haven't entirely caught up. This mismatch can lead to irrational fears and anxieties that hold us back from reaching our full potential.

The Dreams in Your Heart

Amidst the chaos of our minds, there exists a quieter but more profound voice—the dreams in our hearts. These dreams are our deepest desires, the things that make us feel alive, and the goals that give our lives purpose. They are the visions of the life we want to lead, the person we want to become, and the impact we wish to make on the world.

Choosing Courage Over Fear

To live a life driven by your heart's desires rather than ruled by your fears, you must make a conscious choice. It's a choice that requires courage, determination, and a commitment to personal growth. Here are some steps to help you on this journey:

1. Awareness

Start by acknowledging your fears. Identifying them is the first step in taking away their power. Write them down, talk about them with a trusted friend, or seek professional help if needed.

2. Reframe Your Thoughts

Challenge the negative thoughts and beliefs that fuel your fears. Replace them with positive affirmations and thoughts that align with your dreams.

3. Set Clear Goals

Define your dreams and break them down into achievable goals. Having a clear roadmap will make your journey less daunting and more manageable.

4. Take Small Steps

Don't let fear overwhelm you. Take small, consistent steps towards your goals. Each step forward is a victory over fear.

 5. Seek Support

Surround yourself with a supportive community of friends and mentors who believe in you and your dreams. Their encouragement can be a powerful antidote to fear.

 6. Embrace Failure

Understand that failure is a natural part of growth. Don't let the fear of failure hold you back. Instead, view failures as valuable lessons on your path to success.

 Conclusion

Life is too short to be controlled by fear. Instead, let your dreams be your guiding star. Listen to the whispers of your heart, and have the courage to follow them. Remember, the fears in your mind are just illusions, while the dreams in your heart are your truest reality.

So, as you navigate your journey, always choose to be led by the dreams in your heart. They are the compass that will guide you to a life filled with purpose, fulfillment, and boundless possibilities.

Live fearlessly, and watch your dreams unfold before your eyes.

Written by Masonwabe Nyanga